I was thinking about you this morning at yoga class. Turns out the whole town must have had too much fun yesterday, as I was the only one who showed up for class!!! I got a private lesson with one of my favorite instructors, which I loved. At the end of the class though, something happened that made me think of you and I wanted to share…
So one of the things that I really don’t like at all in yoga is INVERSIONS (headstands and handstands!). I could make up a whole list of “reasons” why I don’t like them or they don’t work for me or blah blah blah, but here’s the real truth– they scare me. I don’t trust myself, and I am honestly -as dramatic as this sounds- afraid of becoming paralyzed. Eek I’m so embarassed to share this with you because maybe it’s impossible to become paralyzed in a yoga class, but it’s true that this will sometimes cross my mind, so I just prefer to pretend it doesn’t work for me or whatever.
Well apparently today was my day to go wayyyyyyyy outside my comfort zone because at the end of class, my teacher told me we would be doing a headstand. Being the only one in class I couldn’t just pick up and go to the bathroom or choose another exercise hoping I wouldn’t be noticed…. sooo…. I told my teacher I was scared, and she helped me get into a headstand against the mirrored wall.
I felt okay because she was right there…. but then…….
SHE WALKED AWAY!
And not even a little away, ACROSS THE ROOM away. And I know this because I was up against a mirror and I could see that she was G O N E. Now before you go thinking my yoga teacher is crazy or irresponsible, here’s what you need to know- there was NOTHING WRONG except for what was inside my head. I didn’t know how to get out of this pose safely, so there I was…… upside down and alone. Yet I could feel in my body that I was strong and stable.
And this is why I was thinking of you……….
Because I know you have a lot of moments in your business where you don’t feel safe but where nothing is ACTUALLY wrong.
Do you know what I mean by that?
For example- asking for a higher investment than you ever have before— you may see that sends you into anxiety.
Or doing your first FB live… or speaking gig. Or your first EVER sales call!
None of these things can hurt you in any way, but your fear responds telling you that there is a threat.
So my message today for you, is — can you remember that you are safe even in the moments where it feels sooooo scary and stretchy?
THOSE are the confidence building moments, when you actually do the thing.
People always want to know how to be more confident- it’s by doing things that scare the shit out of you, my friend! So choose one thing TODAY or by the end of this week that scares you, and do the darn thing anyway. Feel free to reply and let me know what it is 🙂
YOU CAN DO IT!!!
xoxo,
Emily
p.s. If you know you are ready for a seriously scary leap, I wanted to let you know that the next round of my mastermind is opening up this fall. It’s by application and invitation only, and it’s specifically for coaches, healers, and consultants who are ALREADY making money in their business, and ready to rock 6 figures and beyond. It’s a great fit for someone who has been getting clients, but experiencing inconsistent revenue, or who just KNOWS there is more (money, freedom, self-expression, etc). If that feels like it might be you, send an email to hello@emilyutter.com and I’ll hook you up with the application. If that all looks good, we can set up an interview for next week to see if it’s a good fit and the right next move for you!